I’ve started hi-jacking my material from elsewhere as well. lol

Michelle Obama Speech Affirms Femininity

David Kotter and Courtney Tarter
August 30, 2008

Regardless of one’s political leanings, there was an encouraging message delivered through Michelle Obama’s remarks to the Democratic National Convention.  It was not necessarily her recommendations about the economy or how others should vote, but rather the high value she placed on femininity and motherhood.

At the outset of her remarks, in the place you would expect a Harvard Law school graduate to present her credentials and authority for speaking, she said: 

I come here tonight as a sister, blessed with a brother who is my mentor, my protector and my lifelong friend.

I come here as a wife who loves my husband…

I come here as a Mom whose girls are the heart of my heart and the center of my world – they’re the first thing I think about when I wake up in the morning, and the last thing I think about when I goto bed at night…

And I come here as a daughter - raised on the South Side of Chicago by a father who was a blue collar city worker, and amother who stayed at homewith my brother and me. My mother’s love has always been a sustaining force for our family, and one of my greatest joys is seeing her integrity, her compassion, and her intelligence reflected in my own daughters. My Dad was our rock… he was our provider, our champion, our hero.

In front of a television audience numbering millions of people, Michelle chose to define herself through her relationships to other people as a woman. Whether this approach was chosen sincerely or cynically to shape perceptions, we will leave it to the reader to decide. Nonetheless, the credentials she presented were consistent with a biblical view of women, and strikingly at odds with the feminist movement.

Her choice speaks volumes about our culture. It assumes that most people still find value in femininity and motherhood, and for that we can be grateful to God. Some have called her speech “pre-feminist” since it highlighted a woman fundamentally defining herself by men and children, something many radical feminists detest. Others have speculated that her speech was designed to appeal to ordinary people and it is encouraging if that is true. “God must love the common man,” Abraham Lincoln said, “because He made so many of them.”

God has placed a universal desire in the hearts of all women that cannot be squelched by feminism. This desire is imbedded in the heart of a little girl who desperately wants her mother to stay home with her and nurture her, and in a wife who longs for her husband to delight in her, and in a sister who wishes her brother would protect her and mentor her, and in a mother who lovingly kisses the foreheads of her children every night before bed.

Ultimately all of these desires cannot be met apart from Christ. And while we rejoice that womanhood was applauded in some small measure, we must recognize that womanhood without the Gospel is simply empty moralism in the end. May we seek to encourage and embrace a womanhood that is not only outward, but conformed to the image of Jesus Christ.

Play Time Lost

August 28, 2008

by Suzanne Hadley on Aug 28, 2008 at 6:08 AM

Remember the days when we rode our bikes through the neighborhood, explored the woods with our friends and set up lemonade stands unsupervised? Sadly, as Rosa Brooks explains in her in her LA Times column, unstructured childhood play “has gone the way of the dodo, the typewriter and the eight-track tape.”

Reader, if you’re much over 30, you probably remember what it used to be like for the typical American kid. Remember how there used to be this thing called “going out to play”?

For younger readers, I’ll explain this archaic concept. It worked like this: The child or children in the house — as long as they were over age 4 or so — went to the door, opened it, and … went outside. They braved the neighborhood pedophile just waiting to pounce, the rusty nails just waiting to be stepped on, the trees just waiting to be fallen out of, and they “played.”

“Play,” incidentally, is a mysterious activity children engage in when not compelled to spend every hour under adult supervision, taking soccer or piano lessons or practicing vocabulary words with computerized flashcards.

Brooks goes on to lament that between 1981 to 1997, children 8 and under lost from 228 to 501 minutes of unstructured playtime (this from University of Michigan time-use studies). She writes:

Increasingly, American children are in a lose-lose situation. They’re forced, prematurely, to do all the un-fun kinds of things adults do (Be over-scheduled! Have no downtime! Study! Work!). But they don’t get any of the privileges of adult life: autonomy, the ability to make their own choices, use their own judgment, maybe even get interestingly lost now and then.

I remember seeing a commercial for a stationary bike for kids that you could hook up to a TV for a simulated outdoor riding experience. Despite the coolness of the technology, the fact that we need something like that made me sad. I find it frustrating that my kids won’t get to roam freely outdoors like I did. Parents must find alternative ways to let their children play. It may require that Moms and Dads accompany their children outdoors. Come to think of it, that wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world.

HT: Tim Challies

 

I personally like what one person commented, 

“I lived out in the country growing up, and loved every minute of it. If you have the option, raise your kids in the country, not a city or a suburb. We never worried about strange people taking off with us; our biggest concerns were snakes and the occasional wild dog.”

Amen.

School!

August 27, 2008

So I’ve officially had one of each of my new classes this semester. I’m pretty stoked. I love school. I’m taking Mass Communication and Child Development. So far, I like. We’ll see though. Just two classes. I was afraid more classes might start to get to me eventually. I’ve been super duper tired lately. Now I have to go subscribe to the NYTimes…. lol

Did you know….

August 26, 2008

That apparently you’re supposed to avoid taking the Bible at face value at ALL COSTS?

Uh, nothing. Duh. Which is why after this semester, I’m taking over my dad’s house. I’ll be bored. And in a decorating mood. lol.

Watching For Clouds

August 25, 2008

Watching for Clouds
by Suzanne Hadley on Aug 22, 2008 at 12:50 PM

I have been praying in recent months, “Lord, teach me to number my days, that I might have a heart of wisdom.” During that time, I collapsed twice, once in public, turning mustard-colored and clocking a pulse of 34 beats per minute.

These words come from World on the Web writer Andrée Seu (also the author of Boundless’ ”On Writing.”) Seu believes God has answered her prayer through ventricular trachycardia, a serious heart condition. Not exactly the “answer to prayer” most of us are hoping for. Seu writes:

I believe there is a problem with our praying, which God drolly illustrates in the incident in which Mark’s house church prays for Peter’s release from prison and then doesn’t believe he is at the door knocking (Acts 12).

Charles Finney tells of the days before his conversion: “On one occasion, when I was in one of the prayer meetings, some of the attendees asked if I wanted them to pray for me. I told them no, because I did not see that God answered their prayers.” Ouch.

“On further reading of my Bible, it struck me that their prayers were not answered because they did not comply with the conditions upon which God had promised to answer prayer. They did not pray in faith, in the sense of expecting God to give them the thing for which they asked.”

Seu provides the biblical contrast:

Elijah on Mt. Carmel bowed in strenuous prayer for God to send rain, and kept sending his servant to check the sky at intervals for signs of clouds. This is the kind of “watchful” (Colossians 4:2) prayer God wants.

When I send out an important e-mail, I check my inbox a bazillion times looking for the answer. But how often do I have that same expectation when I petition my Heavenly Father? Many times I’m like the Christians who prayed for Peter’s release. I hardly expect anything to happen. And when it does, I’m surprised. Sometimes I may not even recognize the answer. How greatly my faith would be increased if I began searching the sky for those clouds.

Have I ever mentioned….

August 24, 2008

….that I LOVE Beatrix Potter. Her children’s books make me thoroughly happy. 

Best children’s books ever. Just thought I’d mention that….

or I’m going to explode. I hate secrets. I’m terrible with secrets.

We might be pregnant. 

Actually we’re pretty sure I’m pregnant. I mean how else could I possibly have the heart to pass up most of my favorite foods? I mean, the smell of Swedish meatballs at Ikea made me thoroughly ill yesterday. I turned down SWEDISH MEATBALLS. I better be pregnant. lol

Crap. lol. Yup, that’s my big secret. I hope Sheri doesn’t read this, or Bruce is gonna kill me….hehehe

Living on Less

August 23, 2008

So, apparently there are families of 5 and 6 who have lived on as little as $20,000 a year…. comfortably. WTF?????? Yah, apparently so. But they don’t do it watching all 5 billion channels of cable and shopping at Nordstroms. They do it the frugal way. And it works, I guess. So my new goal is to live on less. Currently, Bruce and I live well outside our means. And I mean WELL outside. I’m not quite sure how it’s happened. But basically, between moving, adopting Eve, starting my acro team, rising gas prices (and everything else prices), adding me to his cell phone plan, getting a tv and a house phone, and multiple other things, we are waaaay in debt. Not to mention, I am not familiar with the whole budgeting concept. But I guess it’s time to get wise. Bruce makes over 40,000 a year; this has to be possible. We just have to figure it out. And it’s about dang time I realized that shopping at Walmart is NOT frugal living. Walmart isn’t really that cheap. But checking sale prices for everything I buy might. We’ll see. My personal goal: follow in Kate Gosselin’s footsteps and manage to bargain shop for nutritious food and never feed my kids junk food. hahahaha. I’ve got a ways to go….

http://www.stretcher.com/index.cfm

yah, I know…

By understanding the three Cs of financial contentment, you can live large — regardless of the size of your budget.

You know those newlyweds who sip iced lattes in the spa outside their five-bedroom Tudor while planning their next trip to Italy?

Neither do I.

Most people I know started out eating mac and cheese in a cramped apartment while sorting stacks of bills.

Weren’t your first years of marriage supposed to be magical? Weren’t you supposed to take weekend getaways, buy spontaneous gifts and paint the town? So why does it seem that every dime is paying off the past or accruing for the future?

Enjoying the “just married” moments and still saving money is challenging — but you canlive well when you prioritize your spending based on the three C’s of financial contentment:

Choose what matters most.

If you can’t have it all, discover the most important aspects of your activities. What’s thebest thing about going to the movies? If you think it’s the atmosphere, attend an earlier (cheaper) show. If it’s discussing films with friends, rent one at home and invite the gang. Figure out what brings you the greatest enjoyment. Then look for ways to have fun without breaking the bank.

Cherish what you have.

When the Joneses are buying hot tubs and big screen TVs, it’s tempting to pull out the credit card and keep in step. It’s the American way, right? How quickly we forget to thank God for the simplest things. Even hot showers, comfortable homes and cupboards full of food represent luxury to people in most other nations. Challenge yourself to take your eyes off of your neighbor’s toys and to reflect upon everyday blessings.

Commit to God what’s His.

God commanded the Israelites in the Old Testament to give Him the first 10 percent of everything they harvested. This showed they trusted Him to provide the rest. New Testament writers don’t play with percentages; they remind us that all we have is God’s. The lessons: Give generously and spend wisely. When we invest our time and money in Him, we reveal our hearts. And if you think faithful giving only leads to eternal rewards, talk to someone who consistently offers his “first fruits.” He can probably amaze you with stories about God’s abundant provision here on earth.

Live better — and smarter — by incorporating the three C’s of financial contentment. Here are 20 money-saving tips to get you going.

  1. Dig discount stores. Save big bucks, even on name-brand items.
  2. Play the host. Forget going out. Cook for your friends or plan a potluck party.
  3. Keep the change. Empty your coins into a change jar; you’ll be surprised when you count them in a year.
  4. Buy and sell used items online. Books, music and videos are often sold in great condition. (Bonus tip: Read about the seller’s track record before you buy!) Take care of your items and sell them back when you’re done.
  5. Buy a sprucer-upper. While not everyone can restore a turn-of-the-century home, it’s easy to find a house with ugly paint and carpet. One couple invested a few thousand dollars into renovations and upped the value of their place by $35,000.
  6. Rent movies. A movie night at home runs you a fourth of the price of two theater tickets. Older flicks are often cheaper than new releases – and may contain less questionable content. (Bonus tip: Don’t let late fees drain your savings!)
  7. Curtail Cable. Three hundred channels and nothing on? Save yourself $300 to 400 a year by simply “cutting the cord.”
  8. Purchase a pre-owned car. A reliable used car with low mileage costs thousands less than a new one; insurance costs less too. To get feedback from buyers on nearly every make and model, visit www.eopinions.com*.
  9. Work out wisely. Forgo gym fees. Buy a $10 exercise video, purchase used equipment or get a walking buddy.
  10. Accelerate your equity. With mortgage accelerator plans, you make half a house payment every two weeks rather than a whole payment once a month. You’ll build equity faster, save tens of thousands of dollars and pay off your mortgage years ahead of schedule.
  11. Split a meal. Many restaurants pile on the food. Save by sharing, or making a second meal from your leftovers. Note: Even if you split your dinner, leave a gracious tip. The waiter served you both.
  12. Scrutinize sales. If you’ve collected closets and cupboards full of wrong-sized, wrong-colored, wrong-flavored items you’ll never use, you’ve wasted money, not saved it. Shop carefully: a “sale” isn’t always a “good deal.”
  13. Use credit card caution. Keep one credit card and pay it off monthly. You’ll save on interest fees and avoid buying things you can’t afford.
  14. Limit the liquor. Moral considerations aside, alcohol is expensive. And in some states, insurance rates can skyrocket based on a person’s alcohol intake. Read more at http://info.insure.com/life/alcohol.html*.
  15. Send yourself packing. Why spend $6 a day for lunch? Bring leftovers or a sandwich for next to nothing!
  16. Consider the lattes. Do the math: 260 (weekdays a year) x $3.25 for a specialty coffee drink = $845. Instead, set up a coffee pot at work and have coworkers chip in for beans.
  17. Love your list. Clever in-store advertising begs you to impulse buy. Your only hope is to remember what you came for. (Bonus tip: Don’t shop for groceries when you’re hungry!)
  18. Ponder prescriptions. Buy the generic brand of your medication. Even better, purchase prescriptions by mail. You’ll get several months’ worth at once and save on co-pays.
  19. Care for your car. Paying too much for gas and repairs? Experts provide fuel-efficient driving and maintenance tips at www.fueleconomy.gov*,www.epa.gov/otaq/17-tips.htm* andhttp://www.ftc.gov/bcp/conline/pubs/alerts/fuelalrt.pdf*.
  20. Do-it-yourself. Save hundreds of dollars on your home by learning to landscape, redecorate or remodel.

It’s great to dream about the future — and wise to plan for it — with the one you love. But ultimately, your level of financial contentment as a newlywed depends on your mindset. French poet John Petit-Senn summarized it this way: “Not what we have, but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance.”